Are you calling it “Boobear” or “John Hinge”?
Whether it is a dear nickname – and maybe embarrassing or their full legal name, your partner’s contact name on your phone gives a picture in your relationship.
According to relationship experts, here’s what Moniker can say.
“Since the name on our phone is a visual symbol of our partner, and a reminder of our relationship with them, the use of personal jokes or nicknames can reflect a deeper or more intimate connection,” Eloise Skinner, a psychotherapist, told The Independent.
“If our partner uses our full name like those for any other contact, we can think they do not attribute additional values to our communication,” Skinner said.
However, she warns that “this may not be true” for all couples.
Some practical people maintain all their contacts with their legal name – and can be a great help in urgent cases.
Laura learned that lesson the difficult way.
The communication manager was riding her bike one day when she fell and broke her arm.
A group of foreigners who witnessed the incident rushed to her aid and quickly seized her phone to call her urgent contact.
The matter was that she had borrowed her husband’s phone to use his account Apple Music and did not know what name her husband used for her on his phone.
“I didn’t listed by my name, so I continued to rank all the names I could save under, all the time I was in agony on the floor,” she confessed to independently.
She attracted everything she could think of, including “snugglef -k”.
That was when she “heard chuckles”.
In the end, she learned that she was simply saved as “my daughter” – a sweet fact she learned only after breaking a bone and was publicly ashamed.
While it may not always be so dramatic, your partner’s contact name may be less secret than you think.
“Most of the time, these details are quite private for us,” registered therapist Georgina Sturmer for independent.
“This offers us a license to use any kind of terminology we want – funny, flirtatious, professional, cold.” However, she admitted that “more and more, names for our contacts are entering the public domain.”
If you have your imessage link to your work laptop, a text from “Sugar Lips” may appear while sharing your screen with your collaborators. If you are driving and you have synchronized your phone with your GPS, a message from, say, “Pound City Mayor” can be announced for all passengers to hear.
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However, some people can stay in preserving a person’s true name – or not save a number at all, for more pessimistic reasons.
“When we take a measure like this, we are incorporating an element of protection,” Sturmer noted. “After all, if we have stored one’s name, then there is a risk that we may need to change or delete if the relationship does not work.”
This leads to the idea that people’s contact names may have less related to their creative style and more to their style of connection.
People who are “unsafe” are often “preoccupied when looking for security and love”, so using a “delightful nickname or a joke” can be a way to connect with that person, Sturmer explained.
Those who are “unsafe” can “bear simple, short and professional names” to be more “opposing, keeping the distance from them around them”, noted it in publication.
“The distance helps to protect them from rejection from which they are afraid to come if they show that they care about someone else.”
Beyond that name or nickname appears on your phone, another factor that can give you a reading in your relationship is how often it appears on your screen.
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